PdEI Protocol
Following UIC's PdEI Protocol creates the behavior change of the group. Its practice maximizes the EQ* learning of the Group, and creates an extremely safe environment that nourishes and supports everyone's open participation. This Protocol is designed to increase your Emotional Intelligence and will become a habit after your first four or five meetings, in all conversations, at business, home and in your personal relationships. It is always the personal feedback and rewards that make this EQ education an easy habit and fun to apply.
(1) When Others Speak
I will listen with my eyes and body, and understand that side conversation, paper rustling, note taking, interrupting, or in any way diverting from their attention, is extremely disrespectful.
(2) When I Speak
I will keep working on being more specific and explicit, doing my best not to repeat myself, nor repeating what others have said. Instead of advice, I will speak from my own experiences, and my beliefs, by sharing my own feelings and perspectives. I will speak for myself only, using "I" statements, and never you, us or we. I will do my best to speak twice only after everyone has spoken once.
(3) When I Ask Questions
I will first acknowledge and validate what has been said. If I have a counter view, I will state my position or prejudice first, so they know my position and reason for the question prior, and then I will ask my question. I follow this procedure so they know I respect their position; I am not countering their position, and only wish to provide another viewpoint from my position. I will also work hard to not form early conclusions, because that will inhibit my hearing the full message of what the speaker is attempting to convey. I will do my best to focus first on the message, rather than its words or its pieces.
(4) How I Will Think
I will remember to serve my Group members' best interest first—what I can do for them, rather than what they can do for me. This habit will eventually allow me to better understand the best interests of others—and always prior to expressing mine. I will provide safety by never countering, attacking, or demeaning any statements made by anyone. I will assume everything said in this group is confidential. I will commit to that confidentiality, and nothing will ever leave that room, no matter how inconsequential.
(5) My Commitment to the Attendance Rules of My Lab Group
I commit to making all meetings and dinners that I committed prior to joining my group, barring medical or family emergencies, and to follow the protocol and rules of the group. I understand that this commitment conveys respect to this process and my fellow CEO's.
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